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  • Long Time, No Write
    Its been a while. Too long actually. A lot has happened since I last logged in and wrote anything. We didnt get the bakery. That caused depression. Im on medication now and feeling a little bit better. It was hard to do, but here i am trying to take care of myself so i can continue to care for others. We have had a total of 3 adoptions. 2 daughters and a son. Bringing us to 4 forever children. Im still not done with foster care, although my amazing wife is and although I would love one more son, we…More
  • I could do this forever
    Foster Care has felt like it’s been my calling for a very long time. I feel it in my soul on a daily basis. Even on the hard days, I push past the storm and see the rainbow of promise, and know that tomorrow will be a new day. Being able to be a voice for a child who doesn’t get a say in what has happened to them is a huge responsibility, it’s remembering that you are advocating for their best Interest know matter what it looks like it should be. Their stories are sometimes hard and it’s easy…More
  • Help make our dream come true
    On followers and readers. This is different then I normally not about, but we need your help. Anything you can donate will help and will be so appreciated. TIA. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0nvJjhcxWSJ4q4LjLoRtMintYCWBxvskHG3ewphdJkdjZwwrwK2HoTUdb7dHMe7Xfl&id=1351341015More
  • The Quiet Times
    When you phone isn’t ringing for a placement it’s easy to start feeling impatient, it’s easy to wonder why you’re not getting calls. As a new foster parent this can feel frusterating, you’ve spent all the hours in training, getting your home ready, bearing gifts your soul in all the paperwork, letting strangers come Ino your home to see if it is safe, and then when it’s all over your ready, but no call. My advise…. Take this time to breath, to connect with your family, to enjoy the quiet and peace (if that exists, LOL) in your home. Take…More
  • Sidetracked!!! Uggh
    I started writing this blight as a way to reach out and educate people on the ins and outs of Foster Care and the roller coaster ride that it is. Somewhere along the line I got sidetracked, got busy, have felt uninspired to write. Not sure which one, maybe a little of everything. But I just stopped. This was not my intention when I decided to blog. I was excited, and ready to share. I thought I had 101 thing plus that I could write about, then the self doubt made it’s way into my head like a semi loosing…More
  • It’s been a minute!!
    I haven’t written anything in a minute. Again, not how Il planned for this blogging experience to go. I’ve been exhausted. Mentally and physically exhausted. I haven’t been sleeping well. Not quote sure why, could be nothing could be that I have a lot on my mind. We have a 4 month infant not gaining wait, there is a procedure that needs to be done and we can’t get it because of the lack of their parent being absent to sign for it. We have to wait to see if the courts will allow DHHS to sign. That could take…More
  • Parenting Time
    Where do I start? It’s hard. It’s hard to see a family split apart, and to be the person who consistently is a part of it week after week, month after month. Parenting time is extremely important. It’s what helps to keep any bond or attachment that parents and their children have to remain strong. It helps children feel like their parents didn’t abandon them. It gives children a chance to be loved on by their parents. This doesn’t always look like what we think it should, but it’s not our place to judge it. Children need this time with…More
  • Frustration, Policy, Best Interest
    Today I’m mad, I’m frustrated, and I’m partially to blame. Somewhat! Policies for the Foster Care system are outdated, they were written in a time that they may have had to be written the way they are for a reason. When we know better, we should be doing better. But instead of moving along with time and rewriting things so they actually do benefit the children in care, we rest on policies that do not keep their best interest at heart. Today my child in care had a procedure cancelled that would have been life changing immediately for them if…More
  • Life Gets Busy
    I haven’t written much lately, and I’ve really wanted to, but life gets busy. Being a Foster Parent sometimes means that you will be busier then you have ever been. For my family it includes not only juggling the everyday chaos of being parents to 4 amazing little humans, who are all so totally different, with sepereate needs that must be met for each one, but I also work full time outside the home, while my wife works full time inside the home in a much more complex compacity then I do. She’s amazing for all she does for our…More
  • Advocates
    Amoung all the other highly important things you will do for your children In care, you will also be called to be their biggest advocates. This is an extremely important part of being a Foster Parent , the information that you share with their Case Worker, their GAL (Guardian Ad Litem), and if they are blessed to have a CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) will go a long way in helping your child receive all the services they may need, all the extra support they deserve, and it will give them a voice in the court room when they are…More

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